Dear Busola the Courageous One,
I watched your interview with great awe and all I kept
asking myself throughout the whole clip was how did she gather this much courage
and strength to do this?
You knew you will be exposing yourself to all manner of
attacks from different quarters, the backlash of social media, the many
accusing tongues that will arise, the blames, the heartbreaking comments, the
attack on your person, your family and everything you stand for. You knew they
will question your character and cook up all manner of stories to paint you
black. You knew the personality involved and how religious people in this our
part of the world hold their religious leaders in reverence and considering the
particular sect in question and the followership base you knew they will fry
you and yet you publicly came out with your truth and put yourself in the line
of fire just so that other victims will be saved from experiencing the horrible
thing you went through.
Busola you are a strong woman. I admire your strength and
courage. I am sure you will be asking yourself if you actually did the right
thing by going public with your truth especially in the face of all these
social media frenzy and with all the many public and private attacks you have
been getting but please be rest assured you did the right thing. What you have
done is a big deal to me and thousands of others out there and posterity will
remember you for this.
You are not an attention seeking social media drama queen
so this cannot be a publicity stunt only the truth would have driven such. For
you to have come out after all these years even though you could easily have hidden
under the comfort of you already being married with children but you chose to
speak out and be a voice to the many voiceless ones out there and to fight
towards ending this terrible menace in the corridors of the holy temple. To
those saying I have already taken side , you are right and that is because the
truth is glaring in this situation and in the mouth of many witnesses, truth is
established (if you know, you know). If it looks like a snake, moves like a
snake, sounds like a snake, feels like a snake and actually bites like a snake
then IT IS A SNAKE.
I believe you Bukola Dakolo. Time does not change the
truth, truth remains the truth irrespective of when it was told or the
personality involved. I applaud you for speaking out and I pray prospective
targets are saved by this singular act of selflessness that you have shown. You
are indeed courage personified.
To those asking why
now after all these years: Perhaps she is now better emotionally matured to
confront the matter and again, the time of speaking out those not change the
truth! Have you even considered the kind of society we live in and all the
prejudices and the stigmatization that comes with being a rape victim?
What
does she stand to benefit from going public: Redemption for other
victims and salvation for future targets. An end to life wrecking circle in the
church.
The
story does not add up: There is no well researched, documented,
reviewed and edited plot for rape. It does not make sense to the victims so it
definitely cannot make sense to you. That the narrative does not fit into your
imagination does not make it a lie.
She
is a fake Christian and have an unforgiving spirit: Christianity
focuses on truth and telling the truth is being a true Christian. Unforgiveness
has nothing to do with it. The menace is allegedly still ongoing and only
exposure can stop it.
Why did
she wear night gown to open the door: She should have worn a three piece suit with
a matching tie to bed or use duvie to sew agbada with a matching sokoto
immediately she heard a knock on the door. It’s A teenager we are talking
about! And she was in her own house for crying out loud. Plus what I wear in my
house is my business not an invitation to rape.
How did
he know he could walk in, do it and escape without being caught: Same chances those
that got caught took. He was a regular visitor in the house, he knew how the
house functions, he probably was aware her mother had travelled.
Why did
she not shout or resist: really? A matured man versus a teenager! Can people even
imagine the kind of fear that would have gripped her?
They
are not saints, they had children before they got married: And so? Does that
change the facts of the rape? Are you a saint? Did she come out to say she was
a saint?
She
should be ashamed of herself: No ma/Sir. The rapist should be ashamed of
himself and not the victim and you the poster should be ashamed of yourself for
shaming a rape victim.
She is
playing the victim to solicit public sympathy: Really? She would
sacrifice everything she represents and hold sacred for public sympathy? The public sympathy thing
is a cheap card.
The
rape was so sweet she could not open up then: (This one pained me to the core).
Dear poster may you taste rape for real.
To those mocking Timi that he is only angry
because the pastor has had canal knowledge of his wife: You are simply the most myopic creatures to
walk the earth.
To the Spiritual leaders in the Christian
faith: Jesus Christ is our living example. He addressed the decadence in the
temple. So many atrocities are going on in our churches, please address the rot
as leaders that you are.
To those saying whether you did it or not,
you remain my father and spiritual head: You are not a true Christian if you
celebrate evil. Repent. Let us worship the creator and not the creature.
Idolatry is real. Let him that thinks he is standing take heed less he falls.
To those against the planned protest: There is no monopoly
of protest. If you feel that there are weightier things to protest against,
start the campaign , plan and mobilize your people and protest your own. It is
a free world.
To those saying don’t talk Rape talk RUGA talk Herdsmen:
Talk your own. Go public with your own story. Trust me, many feel strongly
about those things too and will support you.
To those saying it is war against the church: No! It is
war against RAPE, war against atrocities in the church and a campaign for
sanctity in the place of worship.
To the touch not my anointed gang: Please tell your
anointed to touch not the untouchable! The anointing of God is a call to right
living and not abuse and sexual molestation.
I have heard people shame rape victims (including minors)
rather than the rapist. The victims are shamed and humiliated while the courts
(that’s even the few cases that manage to get there) let the perpetrators walk
free for “lack of evidence” and that’s why we have so many rapists, child
molesters and all manner of sexual abusers dangling their cursed penises around
wrecking more havoc in the society and getting away scot free with their
offences but Karma is real.
I wish people will understand the psychological effect of
rape…perhaps they will learn to show more empathy to the victims and not rape
them all over with insensitivity.
I celebrate you Busola the courageous.
May you find the healing that last forever.
Thank you! We would not be silenced nor hushed. We would speak for the sake of our children, till this menance is curbed.
ReplyDeleteThank you Jenny. We will not be hushed.
ReplyDeleteThank you for this letter, I hope it comforts every one that is a victim, and reminds every person that God is indeed not mocked.
ReplyDeleteThank you so very much.
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